DON'T SAY IT
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Kesey
[Redacted]
Dec 15, 1986

James Harmon
[Redacted]

Dear James:

Here's some advice I have been giving to just-marrieds over the last decade or so:

Don't say it. It's too hard to take it back. I've seen too many loves sundered by too much needless honesty. These psychological ding-dongs that tell people to speak their minds to their mates, to vent their spleens? What do they accomplish? All they produce is a lot of lonely self-righteous minds & ventilated spleens.

Ken Kesey

P.S. Faye & I have been married 35 years. KK
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